The last thing your boyfriend wants to think about is another guy having been with you (whether this is about sex or simply hooking up). The simple thought of some other guy getting down with you can literally drive him crazy.
Have you had a checkered sexual history that is filled with lots of experience? If so, your boyfriend might have trouble dealing with this. But this is something that he must accept.Do not allow someone else throw your past in your face or hold it against you. Whether it is ancient history (or only a few months ago), let it stay there, and move on.
He will have to accept you for all that you are if he has chosen to be with you; and that means absolutely everything about you. It doesn’t mean he has to like your sexual history, but it means he cannot hold it against you. It is completely unfair for him to want to date you and then start knit-picking details from your past.
If he is constantly bringing up your past, you must make him understand straight off that he is going to have to accept everything about you if he wants to date you. Let him know he has two choices:
- You two break up.
- You two stay together…but he will not bring up your sexual past for whatever reasons; not even when you two are having “those fights”.
Learn from your mistakes and move on. The few moments of pleasure that come from sex and hooking up can have a permanent effect on you reputation and self-esteem. If you have chosen to change your “free loving” ways, you are doing the right thing and that is what matters most. On the other hand, if you have only had a few hookups and your man is making a major issue about it, you might want to rethink whether you really need to date such a puritanical person.
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